Pretty People Deserve Love Too

I love the movie The Holiday, with Kate Winslet, Jude Law etc. I remember watching it for the first time and relating to Kate Winslet's character. In Kate's introductory scene we learn she is in love with one of her co-workers. He is handsome. successful and charming, who wouldn't fall for that? After their flirtatious interaction during the company party, the boss calls all employees in for an announcement, Kate's crush just got engaged to a the perfect girl, beautiful, skinny, long hair etc. It is a bit painful to watch and we see Kate's face and know she is completely devasted. We automatically hate the guy and his new fiance.

Now Kate Winslet is not horrid looking, in fact, she is beautiful, but the new fiance to this guy is stunning. If you notice, in movies where someone cheats or moves on with another person, that person is usually young, physcally fit and gorgeous. As an audience, we almost always end up hating that young, physically fit and gorgeous person right?

So I've thought about this a lot in the past years. I often wonder if good looking people get a bad rap. Now this isn't a discussion on what we consider attractive and unattractive, I'll save that for another post. This is to discuss a lot of stigma attached to physically attracive people.

I'll be honest, I'm made misguided assumptions about pretty girls. I have thought, on occasion, that if a guy is dating a beautiful girl, he is only attracted to her looks. I realize that the probability of me being spot on in this assumption is high...but... what if she is really sweet, loving, intelligent and fun? If a girl is dating a hot guy, does that mean he isn't funny, humble and kind? Don't they both deserve love?

Haven't we all been in a situation where you wanted to hate someone attractive but they were really cool and great to be around?

I have been in the position several times of having the "Hot Friend". The friend that all the guys want to date and when you walk into a room with her, they forget you exist. It can be tough, but if I became friends with the gorgeous girl in the first place, there were great qualities present that I liked and admired about that person.

I see this with guys too, the hot guy and his buddy. For all we know, the hot guy could be a saint!

I hate to admit it, but women are the worst. Judgements about other women are made constantly, based on looks. If they are attractive, they must be jerks or lack intelligence. I mean they can't be good looking and be a decent human being..can they? ;)

Through my personal experiences, I do better now at refraining from deciding ahead of time what a person is like. I also feel better about myself when I recognize the awesome qualities and gifts another person has aside from their looks. Pretty people need friends too, you know!

So instead of dissin' all the pretty people, I say get to know who they truly are.. and if it so happens that they turn out to be self-absorbed, jerky, ignorant idiots, then you have my permission to delete them from your Facebook friends.