You did What?!

I recently set up the man I was in love with for two years, with one of my girlfriends. I can hear the faint gasps from those of you wondering why I would do such a thing, so let me explain.

Back in high school, my best friend at the time began dating a super cute guy. Now they didn't actually go out much because he lived in a different city 3 hours away. I was the supportive best friend and encouraged the courtship, like all good friends do. Well fast forward a couple years, my best friend was no longer dating this guy and while having a conversation one day, she tells me that he has a crush on me and has had one for a long time.

I am a bit shocked but excited at the same time. I always thought he was cute and sweet and to find out that he was digging on me gave me goosebumps! So I asked her permission to write him. That turned into a 5 year romance.

Well a couple years ago I met a really cool guy and fell hard. I would have probably married him in a heartbeat if it weren't for one small issue....he wasn't in love with me. So I did what lots of us hopeful romantics do, I stayed friends with him thinking that eventually he would see how awesome I was and change his mind. Unfortunately, that didn't happen, instead we became really good friends, and while it was hard at times because my feelings were strong, I finally received closure that it wasn't meant to be.

Now during this time that I have known him, there were moments that I thought my friend Betty (name changed, of course) would be a good match for him. I never mentioned it to him though because what girl wants to put herself through that emotional cliff dive. But during a conversation I was having with him recently, I found myself bringing her name up. It wasn't as difficult as I imagined, and he was excited for the chance to go out with her. It was interesting how easy it was to tell him about all the reasons I had for wanting to set them up. I felt like an adult, it was cool.

Now, I am not saying that the way to get over your ex is to go out and set him up with your bestie and I'm not condoning individuals in exclusive relationships do be dishonest or cheat, but I also don't think I have a right to prevent two people from meeting each other just because it may be uncomfortable for me for awhile. If he loved me, he wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Maybe this is crazy thinking, but I kinda like the idea of the man I'm in love with feeling the exact same way about me. Besides, if this does work out between the two of them...they promised to name their first born after me.