The text conversation went something like this:
Guy: Hey
Me: Hey there, how's it going?
(10 min go by)
Me: Hello?
(5 min go by)
Guy: Hey, yeah things are good.
Me: Great! What have you been up to?
(20 min go by)
Me: ??????
(15 min go)
Me: ??????????!!
Guy: What Up?
Me: WTH??!!!!!!!!!! (I didn't text that, just said it out loud)
The best part about this conversation.... I've had almost the exact same one with several different guys, so claiming ownership of it will prove difficult for them. ;)
If any of you have done this STOP NOW, you come off as an idiot. Sorry to be so brutal, but you sound like a caveman just learning how to speak and we start to think you walk around wearing a loin cloth and carrying a wooden club. And women, if you do this, really not cool.
So here are my 5 Don'ts when texting someone you like:
1. Don't ask someone out for the first time via text- It's tacky and lazy, enough said.
2. Don't have a serious conversation via text- This is something I've had personal experience with and let me tell you, so many things can get misinterpreted when texting a disagreement. How many of us end up with texters' remorse on this one?
3. Don't OVER text- O.k. I admit, I can be guilty of this, but I'm getting so much better! I may have thought, in times past, that texting daily updates, messages or say, travel logs, was innocent and non-threatening to the other person. I may have been wrong about that...But I have learned my lesson.
This really is directed toward those in the beginning of a relationship....hmmmm...well, o.k. maybe at any point in the relationship. If you need to have a conversation that requires in depth feedback from the other person, just call. If they don't respond or return your calls...take the hint.
4. Don't think that texting counts as dating- Dating is an, in person or voice to voice, activity. You can't really get to know a person through texting. Don't think saying "Hey" every few months counts as courting. I know this is the generation for it, but the only way to connect and understand a person is by speaking to them, either on the phone or in person. If you have difficulty with that, marriage will be a huge wake up call. ;)
5. And the number 5 Don't for texting and dating...... DON'T BREAK UP OVER A TEXT!- It's tacky and lazy. I'm mainly addressing this to those of you who have dated the person for awhile. I do approve of quick break- ups via text after a first date, if necessary. The rest of you, have the character to contact the person and be honest with your feelings. It will be painful, maybe more painful to the person breaking up, but it gives the opportunity for both parties to have much needed closure and to move on. Avoid texters' remorse on this one too.
**I hope you see the humor, along with the sincerity, in this. I enjoy texting just as much as anyone, but I enjoy actual conversations even more than that. I am more impressed when a guy calls. Besides, when you hear the voice of someone you like, it's pretty awesome.
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